March 07, 2014

Chains and Whips Excite Me

Dear JennJenn,
I'm a male in my late 20's and have never been in a serious relationship. I have a great job and take care of myself physically. I date often, but they've never developed into something more serious. And I think I know why....
I'm into some "different" things sexually. Things many people would probably judge me for. I like bondage. I like group sex. I have many fetishes and am worried that if I bring it up to the woman I am currently dating she will run away as fast as she can. This is difficult for me because I really feel like I could have a future with her, but I'm scared to open up.I'm not sure what to do....
 - Chains and Whips Excite Me

Well, hellooooo Sailor!
Look at you, you're a modern day Christian Grey a la Fifty Shades of Grey! Darling, do not be ashamed of your wants and desires. As long as you play safe - nothing should be off limits. Different people like different things, and no one should judge anyone for it.
I understand it is probably not the best idea to go around broadcasting your desires though.
This woman you are dating now, you said you can actually see a future with her, so you must trust her. Now might be the right time then to try and open up. I suggest sitting down with her and just being honest. As no one really knows your fetishes, you may not really know hers. Who knows, maybe she's into the same things you are! If not, maybe she is willing to at least try them....
There are over 7 billion people in the world. I think everyone deserves to be happy. You should not have to fake who you are in order to be in a relationship. Be you, be honest with yourself and realize that you deserve to be truly happy.
xx - JennJenn